Single Men ( Part 2)

Ok, men this is going to be real good, so if you can't take the heat, well you know how it goes, remember this blog is ( Real Talk) however, I am going to take it easy on you.

So, while deciding to write this blog, I really had to go back in my love "data base" and get into the minds of some of these men that I past dated, and also put together most of the feedback that I attained while being a Relationship Consultant.

First and foremost I am a huge fan of R&B music, and when I was thinking about music and how it connects to the core of a woman, the first song I thought about was Tyrese " Sweet Lady" and this song truly relates to the emotions of a man, especially when he's trying to get to know the "Sweet Lady". Now, for most of you men out there, swagger is truly needed when you are trying to land that woman that you have been eyeing especially when she is a quality woman.

Noticed, I did say quality guys! So, your sweet lady should be broken down with these traits, S: Smart, W: Wise E: Encouraging E: Equally yoked to you, T: Trustworthy. Now, I know you have heard that a good woman is hard to find, well the truth is " A woman of God is the woman, you should find" ( Real Talk).

Start placing the real value on the woman that you are seeking and why? Don't let music videos place this image in your mind on what a woman should be like, those videos most of the time are just plain ole degrading to women, The true sexuality of a woman is the mind, and the body connects with that along with her heart. If you combined GOD+ MIND + BODY + HEART= Michelle Obama, and men, if you are looking in the right places, you can attain that type of woman, but hey like my girl Beyonce said " You gotta back it up" We like a Barack type of fella, and yeah you gotta know how to rock a suit, and speak like the commander in chief now that's SWAGGER!

However, fellas it's time to start committing to the ladies again, " You Gotta Put A Ring On It" and don't get mad, when the new guy comes around and snatches up the " one that gotta way" Trust me don't let the " Flavor of Love" and " Rock of Love" Or worst of all " RAY J" tell you that you have to date multiple women in order to find the right one. The love of "one" Good woman should be enough. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't feel to comfortable buying a pair of shoes, that all of my friends, and their friends have worn ( get my point!!!)

It's time to bring true love back men, God created you to love woman and appreciate her, and value her. In order to truly love a woman, you have to know what love is, and love is NOT JUST SEX! thats the worlds view of love. So, here are my pointers in finding that good woman, and keeping her

1) A woman that knows and loves God is a great woman, because she has and knows values.

2) Ok, I am not dissing the strippers out there, but trying to marry a woman while getiing a lap dance " So not Good" ( Real Talk)

3) If you love her, and you know it's been years, don't be afraid to marry her, if its Gods will, it will be a great union.

4) Most, of all don't let love end the date ( Which this happens to be one of the books I have written) always treat her like the day you met her, women just like to feel the "ahhhhhhhhh moments" they had when they met you.

5) RESPECT HER!!!!! R: each out and open the door for her, E: entince her mind S: spend quality time with her P: place her high on the list of "love" E: expect to listen to her C: call her and just let know you care T: take the time to tell her you " love her" So, go and find your sweet lady!

This, has been another fun topic for me to write about, I just love talking about all the wonderful and exciting things we go through, when it comes to love. So men and women, lets bring love back, let us embrace the realness when it comes to good ole lasting love!!

Remember the most valuable thing we have in life is LOVE: It never dies and it's universal, and TIME: we can never get it back! So love hard and enjoy the journey!!

One Love One Blood ( shed for you and me)

Smart Diva!